We live in a day and age where we have endless possibilities through endless scrolling. There is Facebook, Twitter and my personal favorite: late night Netflix. You run through Netflix and before you know it, an hour has passed by and you haven’t committed to a show. Keeping our options open has become to have value and as soon as you have what you think you want, you no longer want it. You’re unfocused. You are constantly tempted to think that the grass over there is actually greener. Any given option suddenly leaves you unsatisfied and unfortunately indecision leaves us anxious. FOMO isn’t good for mental health.
You know that feeling you get when you are with those friends you’ve known for a long time? Those friends you’ve made a commitment to? It’s like a big fat warm hug that lasts for hours. That example of commitment is the greatest solution we can give ourselves. Commitment to a person, place, or thing can lead to a scary amount of vulnerability and closing a door permanently in the sake of commitment can feel like a downright panic attack. Believe me, that door will pop ever so slightly open from time to time. There is a reason it was shut to begin with so remain steadfast in keeping it that way.
The greatest gift we can give ourselves is to show our love by working at something or with someone in steadfast ways. Be decisive. Be committed. Our time can be dedicated to the slow but important work of completion, focus, and dedication.
Pick a movie. Finish a song all the way through. Commit to that human that feels like a warm hug.